Chances are if you’re older and in the dating world you’ve had the option to date a single mom. It’s really not surprising considering the demographics. Many of which can be very attractive, down to earth and sometimes a lot of fun to be around. But there are many reasons why dating this kind of woman may not be the best choice.
According to singlemotherguide.com there were over 8 million single moms in the United States as of 2021. Of those statistics, 52.3% were never married while 29.3% were divorced. Another 18.4% were either separated at the time of polling or had been widowed. A whopping 62% received food stamps. As a man dating in current times these numbers should terrify you. Let’s dig into why.
Let’s dissect the first number, 52.3% of single mothers were never married. These women chose to have a baby with a man that they either weren’t interested in marrying, or the man decided she wasn’t worth marrying even after having children with her. So either she makes very poor choices in the men she chooses to sleep with or she isn’t worthy of being in a long term relationship proven by the actions of the father of her child(ren).
So what are some reasons that a man might feel that the mother of his children is not worthy of being with?
- Unfaithful
- Unattractive
- Lazy
- Dishonest
- Insufferable
- Mental Issues
- Compatibility
This is just a small list of endless possibilities but the majority of single mothers I’ve met have definitely fallen into one, or more, of those options.
Quickly let’s chat about women who have already been married and are divorced. Some women remarry and divorce multiple times and as we all know they are incentivized to do so in the United States with family courts granting outrageous alimony and child support orders to them simply for being female. After a woman has gone through their first divorce they understand this which is why they are so eager to remarry and find another sucker that they can clean out if things don’t work out which automatically puts you at a disadvantage. Accompany this with the addition of her children in your life that she expects you to treat like your own yet won’t let you punish or reprimand the way you would your own and it’s a recipe for disaster.
The last statistic, that 62% of these single mothers receive food stamps, should really sound the alarm. If they aren’t able to take care of themselves without help from the government what do you think your role in the relationship is going to be? Even if it’s not something that’s verbally asked for, once you’ve established feelings and relationship you’re going to feel obligated to help her when she needs it.
Look, I have no problem with single mothers and am not sitting here trying to bash them. They do need men in the lives of their children so we can avoid this escalating tragedy of declining masculinity in our society, however, if you are a man that strives for excellence and wants to be in control in a relationship and a true alpha then I would urge you to avoid dating them.
Old school traditional relationships that have lasted the test of time had a specific pecking order when it came to the placement of their loyalties:
- God (if you believe)
- Spouse/Partner
- Children
- Parents
- Friends
When dating a single mom their children always precede you in that order making it impossible to have a successful LTR with them unless you plan on sitting back and being the beta throughout the relationship.
There are many reasons not to date a single mom outside of what is covered in this article, but there are plenty of resources that discuss it on the web. I wanted to take a more statistical approach that may make more of an impact with the men out there that are more analytical. I hope that it helps and allows you to make good choices when it comes to your dating experiences.
Please feel free to comment and start some dialogue around this article. I’d love to hear your opinions and experiences. For us to stay mentally strong and become the alpha’s we were born to be we need to constantly exercise our minds through reading, discussion, etc.
Thanks for reading and remember to C3! (consume content for conditioning your mind to be the person you want to become)
