Have you ever met a woman who has told you they wait a specific amount of time before having sex? Or that they require that you get tested for STDs prior to having sex? It seems more and more common for women to have these types of requests/demands. They believe that by waiting they are adding some sort of value to themselves. But are they actually? Does a man really believe that a woman who is waiting or has these demands is any more valuable than a woman that does not?
I’ve been fortunate to have a lot of different experiences in my life. I’ve gone on hundreds of dates, slept with hundreds of women, and have learned a lot simply from experience. One thing I can say with complete certainty is that men do not see a woman as more valuable if they delay sex. This is a common misconception that women have. They think that just because a man slept with her and never called her afterwards that the man did not respect her because she gave it up too quickly.
In fact, many women propagate this lie when discussing these types of encounters with their peers. They have to rationalize a reason beyond the fact that the man was not interested in progressing with them so they make the excuse that it was because they were too easy and should’ve waited.
It’s funny how women lose all sense of logic when it comes to dating and relationships. Logically wouldn’t it just makes sense that if men are very interested in sex that the sooner you give him sex the more interested he will become? I don’t know any man that only has sex with a woman one time if he was truly interested in her unless she is the one that cut ties. I have spent the last 20 years having conversations with men about dating, relationships, sex and infidelity and have yet to hear that excuse as a reason why a man didn’t continue to pursue someone.
However, the opposite is actually true. If a woman makes a man wait for sex he will lose interest rather quickly. In fact, in today’s current dating landscape with men dating multiple women what do you think is really going to make you stand out more compared to the competition? You can make him wait and lose him to someone who does put out or you can give it up and potentially lock him down.
I was coaching a woman who was looking to get into a relationship. She had some trauma from past relationships and was very conservative when it came to having sex and dating. She had a requirement that the person she was going to be sleeping with would have to get tested for STDs prior to any sexual activity. She started talking to a guy who she was really interested in and went on a date with him and asked me how she could lock him down. I advised her that she needed to drop the STD test requirement and have sex with him quickly if she wanted to ensure he wouldn’t continue to look for other women.
They ended up having sex on the second date and are now a happy couple. Because of her past traumas she continues to look for validation but every time she does she gets reassurance from his actions. Most likely things would’ve never gotten to this point had she stuck to her original plan of making him get tested for STDs.
I myself have ended up in different relationships that initially started out from sex. Sex can create a connection and a bond between two individuals. I’ve even gone as far to have conversations about the importance of it on the first date. When the conversation of sex comes up I mention how bad it would be to wait 2 to 3 weeks to have sex and find out it’s terrible and there’s no chemistry. Imagine wasting all that time and effort and energy on someone that you’re not even sexually compatible with. It only makes sense to make sure there is compatibility in that department because it is such an important part of any relationship.
I’m sure that some women, and some men, will disagree with me on this. But it’s hard to argue the results.
So ladies, stop pretending to be so virtuous and do the things that logically make the most sense. If you’re looking to lock down a man and be in a relationship then the key to a man’s heart is through sex. If you want to make sure that you’re going to be satisfied in a relationship, test drive the car! You don’t wait for two weeks after you look at the car at the dealership before you test drive it. If you find out it’s a lemon do you want to have invested as little time as possible. Test drive the car! You don’t wait for two weeks after you look at the car at the dealership before you test drive it. If you find out it’s a lemon you want to have invested as little time as possible.
I know there’s many content creators out there today that talk about a woman’s body count as if it’s a bad thing. That men only want high value women that have low body counts because it shows that they have more value. That the reason a Bugatti is such a status symbol is because less people have an opportunity to have it.
Let’s be completely honest, practice makes perfect. I’ve been with women with low body counts and I’ve been with women with higher body counts and I bet you can guess which ones have the better skills in the bedroom.
So stop worrying about society. Stop worrying about false virtues. And do what it takes to secure your own happiness just like the woman I’m coaching has been able to.
