Chances are you’ve either heard a woman call herself strong and independent, of have seen it mentioned on a woman’s dating profile or social media bio. But what is a strong, independent woman? And if they do exist are they worth seeking a relationship with?
The internet has a couple of different definitions for a strong, independent woman. The first, from Wikihow, states “Being a strong, independent woman means that you are able to find happiness on your own. You have self-confidence without having to rely on another person or society for validation. It means emotional independence and being able to have healthy relationships with others without falling into co-dependent patterns.”
If we dive deeper, the actual definition of an independent woman is “A woman who pays her own bills, buys her own things, and does not allow a man to affect her stability or self-confidence. She supports herself entirely on her own and is proud to be able to do so.” (definitions.net)
So by definition, the majority of self-proclaimed strong, independent women are not actually independent at all.
If a woman receives any alimony or child support, or even any government assistance then she doesn’t have the right to call herself independent. By definition – “does not allow a man to affect her stability” would include that if a woman provides her own income from sex work, OnlyFans, or being a sugar baby, she’s still reliant on a man for compensation and as such is not independent. And if you’re not independent how can you be strong?
I remember meeting a women from a dating site. We went out and had a great time. I went back to her place and she showed me around. It was a nice home, valued just under $1M at the time. She showed me her purse collection that consisted of thousand dollar handbags from Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Gucci, etc.
She considered herself a strong independent woman and was a retired teacher. I asked her how she afforded all of this and was able to retire under 40 from being a teacher and can anyone guess her response? She got rich from divorce. She received millions initially in the divorce and was still receiving $13k/month spousal support. Add child support on top of that and it was no surprise how she was already retired. This is not strong and independent. It made me lose all respect for her and I decided not to see her again.
As men, when we hear this statement being made it’s like a tornado alarm warning us to steer clear. It’s similar to when a woman hears a man talk about how successful he is, if you’re really successful you don’t have to talk about it. Ladies, I know that some people will tell you to fake it until you make it, but not this time.
Being strong and independent is a dominant male trait. Men aren’t looking to be in a relationship with another man. We want women who are feminine and desirable. Men want women who don’t necessarily want to be strong and independent and can accept the reality that men and women are different. Men want women who are self-aware, which is harder and harder to find with the female delusion that society continues to perpetuate.
So my fellow men, if you hear a woman call herself strong and independent, do yourself a favor and like the wind.
I’d love to hear your stories or experiences with strong independent women. Please leave them in the comment section below for us to discuss.
